How to Not Freak Out When Planning a Wedding
You get engaged. You are excited. You tell people. They start asking a million questions and it overwhelms you.
Let’s be real. We are told our whole lives that weddings are stressful to plan. But, not every part of your wedding planning has to be stressful.
The first thing you have to do when planning a wedding is remain as calm as possible. Even though everyone started asking when your date was like an hour after you got engaged, it does not mean you need to pick a date right away. In fact, I do not recommend making any decisions for at least two weeks after you got engaged. Give you and you fiancé time to breathe and enjoy the excitement.
After things have calmed down, sit down with your fiancé and start talking about the main and important parts of your wedding. Time of year, location, size of your wedding, and budget are the four main things that should be decided first.
When you decide on an approximate number of people you would like to invite, start looking at locations. You will most likely not pick a location the first day you start looking. Take your time and visit the locations with you fiancé. Ask a bunch a questions and see what the locations can offer.
After you’ve booked your location and picked a date, start gathering addresses. In my experience, this was one of the main things that got under my skin. Family does not always cooperate with getting addresses to you. I hope your experience is different then mine. Haha!
Also, while we are on the topic of inviting people, don’t let people push you around when it comes to your invite list. And yes, I am including your parents and future in laws in this. This is your wedding. Invite who you want to invite and hold your ground. You may need to compromise on a few people but keep that number as low as possible if that is what you want. You do not need to be rude or a jerk about it, just be calm and firm.
After you get all these main things decided on and booked, you can start deciding on other things like colors, flowers, clothing, DJ, and bridal party. Just make a list of all the things you need to decide on and start checking them off one by one. This does not need to be stressful of overwhelming. Maybe do one or two a week until they're done. The important thing is to remain calm, cool, and collected so you can make rational decisions.
With all that being said, don’t let what people say about weddings take away the joy of planning your wedding. Enjoy the process!